For people with Social Anxiety.....?I have had it my whole life, i know what its like talking to doctors who have studied it so they think they know what it is, but they don't. Unless you suffer from it you don't know. I got the idea to write a book. My question to you people with Social Anxiety is if you find this helpful and did you enjoy reading it??? This is what cured me......even tho its still here i conquer it everyday......
Chapter 1:
Start talking. Anything! even to family. Even if you spit out "mary had a little lamb" at least its something. Better then the nothing you've been talking about your whole entire life. "Hi aunt blank, how r u, good, so whats all knew?, oh and hows that goin? oh that's good is it kind of like this? oh so you mean like this? oh yeah i kind of feel that way too when i do this? so i hear its gonna rain tomorrow, getting tired of that stuff, think i'll do this when its nice out again, talking to cousin blank lately, i never seen them in a long time" Then turn to the other person in the room and start talking the same way to them. From there just listen in on the convo and add things you've heard about the topic or make jokes or add whatever you think of. At first you think maybe alot of people will act strange because they've never seen you talk before. You have an attitude like they will say "Who the hell is this and why is he talking all of the sudden" but mostly that is in your head, in reality they will probably be happy for you because your finally starting to come out of your shell and they've always wondered why you didn't talk because they would have liked to hang out with you. They will then even start to interact with you more which will help. Everybody is looking for more friends. This may all be nerve recking and the most scariest part is right before you start talking and in the middle of convo if something happens to make you nervous in the convo, like a weird look from the other person but as i said do not let it bother you. you are making progress and its better then the nothing you've been saying all your life. After that first convo you will feel really good, like "i did it" and it will only go up from there so DON"T STOP! That's the first step. Usually you find it awkward approaching someone and "hows it goin? what's your name? my names blank" and then shaking hands. Here's the thing....You've never done it before. How do you know. Pretend someone is asking you how to talk to new people, what would you say. Follow your own advice. The person may act weird and look at you funny because they don't know you, but who cares. They are the weird one and the one who is being immature so look at them the same way or even worse. Look at you, your talking now, just like everyone else, eventually it will become easy, non awkward and naturally to you and you will be HAPPY! :) don't you want to be happy. It feels so good, there's a whole world out there when you finally have people to experience it with you and when you come out of your shell.
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Thats a really good pick me up. My mum always tells me the same thing. She says talk to at least one person every day - i have social issues. You're right, I started doing this more at college and people have really started taking an interest in me to the point they'll walk me to my next class just to talk to me some more. Its really encouraging. You seem like the type of person that shines optimism on things. Could you enlighten me and give me your opinions on my question? I'd really appreicate it:
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agreed with your first paragraph.
Doctors can't do anything,unless they faced anxiety ,loneliness. I was in hospital because of social anxiety for 1 week. I told each and everything to them(doctors). about what I feel,How I feel. How I react in public place. but. Nothing happened fair. and that hospital was No.1 hospital in India about mental illness I think. They adviced me in mature manner, but I am at very low level for that advice. I couldn't took that advice. Doctors don't know anything ,about how to correct different different people's illness.
But on the other hand. They are also human being like us. They shouldn't take tension about other people.
Dr. Emmanuél
I'm glad your trying to help others with this illness. I am a doctor but before you shout at me.. i experienced it at a young age and i know it can be more disabling as many people think.
Good on you. It's a good chapter and thank you for spreading your experiences i'm sure people will find it helps a lot =]
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