Hi,I did the following:
Are there any websites/support groups for women who's father-n-law has made sexual advances toward?*SORRY TO MAKE THIS SO LONG, BUT TO COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND MY SITUATION I MUST TELL MY STORY FROM THE BEGINNING*
I have been married to my husband for 14 years this month. In October 2007, my world was turned upside down. My father-n-law came to my house around 9am...I recognized his distinct knock. I had just turned on the shower & decided I was not about to redress & answer the door. Whatever it was could wait or he could call(he lives less than 1/2 mile from our home). I noticed when I finished with my shower he was still knocking(30 min later). I went to the door and told him to hold on so I could throw some clothes on.
I opened the door & right off hand I noticed he looked odd. He proceeded to come in to the house & stood there for at least 30 sec. He then said he was just wanting to know what channel & what time the Alabama f'ball game began. I looked at him & told him that it was Homecoming w'end & it was only on pay-per-view(which I had told him the day before b/c I was planning on attending the game).
He then asked me if I had coffee, made some small chit chat and than came the humdinger!
He began to inform me that my mother in-law did not have sex w/ him & that he just did not know what to do. He repeated this many many times. Then several times he hesitated while saying, "Can I ask a favor?" Finally, he said "Do you think you could help me out?"
I was floored and it seemed my head became dizzy & my body so heavy. I remember thinking...he did not mean what I think he meant.
My father in-law went to tell me that he had been trying to get the nerve to ask me this since last November(2006 - 11 months).
I remember feeling panic, fear.....I did not know what to do, but I knew that I had to get him out of my home, quickly!
His cell phone rang at some point & I ran to my bed room to get my cell...but could not get a signal.
I decided not to sit back down...and I recall saying something to him like I really needed to pack if I was going to drive up to Homecoming. As he stood up, he came toward me so fast, grabed me & kissed my neck and whispered something like "Will you help me out?". All I could think to get him out was to say "Yes, I will think about it" while moving him toward the exit finally & locking mt door as fast as I could.
I made several phone calls...one to my husband. He could not believe it & thank God when my husband confronted my father in-law about this, he did admit it! No one in his family believed this until they understood that he HAD ADMITED what he did.
Needless to say, it was all swept under the rug...psych appt was made for him, but not kept.
I suffered thru extreme nightmares & obsessive behaviors(checked window & door locks numerous times a day/night). I still have nightmares, not as often...I can smell certain smells that remind me of my father-in-law or think I hear him or someone knocking on a door like he does & I go into panic/anxiety attacks.
Why do I have to suffer for this while everyone forgets his wrong doing?
It angers me so much to know he made me feel unsafe & threatened in my own home...the place that I am to find comfort & security in. He stole my life & no one seems to understand!
Are there others like me?
Is there a website or support group that would help?
Please help,
~R
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