why is my mom so immature?ok, well, one of my deepest secrets- i cant stand my mom sometimes. really. i cant.
what she does, its like she says one thing, and then turns it around like she said something else!! she shops and yells at me for not wanting things that she wants to buy me, and then if i tell her that she shouldnt be spending the money that we dont have, she yells at me saying that im not gonna control what she spends. and i dont even try to. i just calmly speak to her that i dont think that she should let her cash flow so easily. my friend (and stepfather), gets mad when she overspends, and then she brings up that he is "pouting and acting mad becuz she bought something", and brings up that she brings the most money in to the house anyway, when my stepdad is in a tough spot right now!! he keeps getting laid off his job, and he cant really do anything, like quitting, cuz he wont be able to find another suitable job. my mother cannot be made to understand this, and i am 14 and i even can!! she brings up things and gets into this thing where she raves and rants about stupid stuff that shouldnt even matter. i mean, i get along with him than she does, and im even corrected by him most of the time. and when he corrects me, she gets mad at him and says that im HER daughter. its like shes selfish or something. if i talk to her, she plays non-dumb and tells me how i hurt her. then she plays stupid when it comes to important things.
she also claims a lot that she is sick/hurt. it is getting to be every day, she will bring up something that happened the day before, and say "ooh.. geez.. this still hurts.. i think im seriously hurt here...." and this makes it hard to determine when she is REALLY hurt.. then shes like "i feel so sick" and shes not sick, shes just fine!!
im beginning to feel like IM the mother here, her the child!! and then i end up having to act in this way, and she gets REALLY mad when i try to tell her that shes wrong about something. my stepdad has noticed most of these problems in her.
and i really dont know what is wrong with her!! shes like a little kid half the time- she gets EXTREMELY selfish sometimes, and i tell her not to be that way toward brian. she gets like shes trying to get attention, by playing sick or hurt. and she gets really distrusting a lot of times. and i know that what she is thinking is truly not correct.
when i try to help her with things like her classes she takes at school, signing up on the internet, she will like ask me to help, but then go back on what she said and say that im hogging the computer pretty much. and stuff like that.
some other stuff about her that could be related to her problem-
she is 48. she COULD be going thru the change, but i dont know if that would even add these traits to someones' character.
she has anxiety, and depression, and is on medications for them.
she sometimes gets in arguments with brian, and then gets REALLY overwhelmed, and starts yelling constantly, making my stepdad unhappy to be with her, and i can see that easily sometimes. he always does come back to normal with her, altho that is getting to be less and less. he used to not fight back when she started on him, but now he gets really mad and says hes sick of her saying these stupid and ridiculous things. and i see where hes coming from. and i feel bad for not agreeing with my mother, who has always cared for me and taken good care of me. but i agree more with my stepdad on most things.
what is wrong with her??
what can be done to help stop her from being this way??
she is a very intelligent woman, but she goes and throws it right away and this makes her not be my role model. and she mentioned this earlier, saying to brian that i have disrespected her since she got with him- another distrusting thing!!
and u know what, u very well may be right. i never even questioned bipolar. and im gonna look it up now.. i mean, this is beginning to tear our relationship apart..
♥Luv me or hate me♥
Is she bipolar?
babeee
i ask myseldf the same questiob. my mom is soo immature too she acts lik someone my age or younger
caroline g
maybe she has issues from her childhood. My mom spends way too much money on crap- most she doesn't even need (she bought a pack of mousetraps in case she gets mice- there hasn't been a mouse in that house in at least 15 years!) But when she was growing up, they moved a lot and never had much bc they were very poor. (lived in peoples attics and in tents at times) So she didn't have a lot of stuff when she was growing up, and when they had a house, it caught on fire and they lost everything they had. So I think this is why I think my mom is the way she is. Maybe your mom has some unseen need to have tangible things? I don't know your mom so maybe not. Hope this helps!
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