Please help!!!!! Social Anxiety Disorder?Hello. My name is Sarah. I'm 17 years old. I've shown signs of SAD since I was 7 years old, but wasn't diagnosed until about 2 months ago.
I've always been the "weird girl", that always knew I was a little different than most kids. I was somewhat a disturbed child. Watched a lot of horror movies,loved vampires, and tended to like "darker things". I've been somewhat of a closet goth since I can remember. From the movies to the books to the art and architecture. And also being the "shy, weird art girl" (which is how i've always seen myself) has made me feel both comfortable, and uncomfortable at the same time.
I've gone to prep. catholic schools since pre-school. Where I was always believed to be ridiculed, and judged. I never liked the kids very much. A lot were snooty and ignorant. I never had many friends growing up, because I could never really relate to them. I remember being made fun of for years in elementary school for my hair, socks, overall appearance, and attitude.
Warp to present day today. It has cause me to have a complete Social Anxiety Disorder, with underlying OCD, strange eating habits/eating disorder, and mild depression.
I have such horrible days, and feel only really anxious at school.
Maybe thats where the problems started, and that is where they are the worst.
I have the muscle tension, sweating, redness, increased heart rate, headaches, and extreme feelings of panic. Almost on the verge of having a panic attack somedays.
My home life in so stressful to me. My dad always yells at me to take my book bag of the chair. Everyday when he comes home from work, he turns the tv up so loud! I wear my headphones with no ipod connected to them, just so I don't damage my hearing.
I'm usually home most of the day... by my self.
Anyways. I'm currently a junior, and my life is driving my crazy. I feel like i'm in a prison.
I cry almost everyday. I try to do homework, but, most of the times I avoid it, because I get so anxious thinking about school. I don't want to not do my homework, but It's worse to have even more anxiety in my life.
One more thing I should add.
I usually have a hard time concentrating at school, I usually keep my head down, and get afraid to look up. Yet, I get so nervous thinking the teacher is looking at me thinking, "what a weird kid".
I spend all 45 minutes in almost every class thinking about how nervous I am, what impression am I leaving on everyone, and being so afraid to be called on. That I can feel my heart RACING.
That is 90% of my school life.
Which is a majority of my life.
What should I do?
What advice would you give?
Lynn Henty
learn new ways to relax and calm yourself
start with deep slow breathing
get a self hewlp book on stopping worry and another on agoraphobia from an online bookshop
read about aspergers syndrome, it makes socialising difficult, you perhaps may heve it, docs know little about it
Noosie
You're not weird. You're troubled. And you should talk to your school nurse and tell her about your feelings--including that you're afraid of some of your family members. She can put you in touch with some real help.
You do need help, and you can thank God that Social Anxiety Disorder has been recognized as a real ailment. It used to be called moodiness, and brushed off by many a professional, sad to say. You shouldn't worry about anything--just go to your school nurse and ask her advice. Good luck, dear.
tryd
ok first of all let me tell you that life isnt very long, live it the way you want it to be, dont care about what people tell you. there is no reason that you should hide who you are unless its one of those "dirty little secrets" that are extremely unhealthy to you or not normal, and trust me you will know when something "isnt normal" other than that there is no reason to hide who you are, and if there is something abnormal about you then please go search for help by any means possible.
but things that you dont need to change are you personality, what you like to do, what you enjoy doing and what you find interest in, these are things that make up your identity, this identity does not need to be changed unless it hurts you or others. first of all you must build up confidence, you know what? you are a goth, i dont find anything wrong with that, unless you do really abnormal and creepy as well as not strange but things that are plain wrong you shouldnt worry about changing anything about yourself. so back to confidence. dont care about what people think about you, if people hate on you they lack their own self confidence and just want to screw with you. being yourself is the absolute most coolest thing a girl can be so tell those haters to fuck off because you are who you are.
and really, why do you care what people think? you are living your own life, living up to their standards shows you are weak, you live up to your own standards not theirs. period.
find friends if you havent had the chance to find any yet, just talk to people and talk to the right people. talk to people that are welcoming and willing to accept you as a friend, i sure many will.
the point is, if you are listening to others telling you to be something you are not, you are the one losing if you listen to them, keep your identity, but as far as the confidence part please stand up for yourself, practice talking to people that are more approachable and you will get better and better.
and if there are other factors to your health problems that are not related to social anxiety, find them and seek medical help..
i believe anyone can live the way they want, you can do anything, remember that, people that dont believe that really just dont try or arent satisfied with themselves. its not easy but its 100 percent possible. so believe in yourself and live your own life, they get nothing out of you being what they want you to be
and dont take what your parents say to you personally, i get yelled all the time... just do what you need to do, if its right do it, if its wrong dont, easier said than done though
and find out if your symptoms are physical or emotional, some physical aspects of you could affect your anxiety, if its psychological please find some counselling, it seems like both though
be yourself ok?
i might not be much help but i want to make a difference one way or another, if i didnt help sorry, if i did im glad
if u need someone to talk to im sure i can talk to you, need someone to approach? im sure i can help if you really need it
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